Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Inspiration, Honesty and no judgement

So taking a huge amount of inspiration from Lia and her recent post, where she was not happy with her skinfolds and her recent photo's etc.
She stated she is going to be totally honest whenever she writes.
She also posted about what 'we all' may be thinking/saying in response to her post, in regards to her getting on with it now, starting from scratch etc -
QUOTE Lia- 'Some of you may read this post thinking to yourself "you've done this to yourself and you've started from scratch time and time again" so what's going to be different this time?'

My response to Lia in comment form was -
QUOTE me - 'You know what Lia, I did not think that, in fact, I thought - GOOD ON YOU. Who cares if people think 'oh yeah whats going to be different this time', the mere fact that you are not giving up and you are pushing on says it all, you are a winner, whether you make it to July or not, because you are trying to make it now there come hell or high water.
You are not making excuses and you are not giving up.Yes we choose to blog about our lives but also people have the choice to read or not to read and no judgement should be passed.
You can do it, see you in July:)'

The more I have dwelled on this over the past few days and particularly after my Mind Coaching/NLP session today, the more I am realizing that I really need to focus on me and my journey, why I'm doing this, doing what I want to do, whatever that is and whenever that is.
To be totally honest (as I have decided to match Lia in her honesty) if others want to pass judgement on my life and the things I'm doing, then let them, I do not have to listen to people are not important to me and as long as I'm being true to myself and my family unit then all is good.
As I said, yes, within Blogland, we put our day to day out there, we choose to blog about our lives, but people also have the choice to read or not to read and no judgement should be passed.

So 'GO LIA' is what I say, when I check in on any blog it means I want to follow that particular journey, I will read without judgement.

Have a great day everyone
Shar x


Doris's New Beginning! said...

Hi Shar

Just wanted you to know that I read your blog every day and follow your journey. I am trying in a big way to lose a lot of weight but often have issues with my body as it does not respond too well. ie I do so much and eat so clean but the old bod doesn't want to change. I get frustrated, then shake myself off and think where did I go wrong and analyse my pattern, readjust and try again. Like Lorna Jane's motto, Never, Never, Never Give UP!

Cat said...

Great post!

little rene said...

Well said Shar!

We are not all meant to be carbon copies of each other and if we read something that we don't necessarily agree with then I think we need to respect that the person who wrote it has a right to think, feel and say whatever they like within the safety of their own blog. Phew! that was a long sentence! LOL!

I LOVE your honesty so keep it up. As women I think we have all struggled to varied degrees with what you have been going with and I for one find it reassuring that I am not alone in this area.

Although at the moent i am too sleep deprived and baby focused to even give my body much thought!

Magda said...

Just sitting here nodding my head Shar. Well said!!


Antigone said...

Good on you hun :)
Like Lia I wish you all the best!
To hell with what people think hun, it's about you not them!

Combat Girl said...

STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN on the loose, woohoo.

I like your attitude Shar, it is so spot on.


Selina said...

Love you attitude Shar, you've always been a star to me!!!

Splice said...

Great post Shar :-)

I agree, we shouldn't worry to much about what other people think.
Also, many o us go through the same things so we understand each other and have no need to make judgement :-)
Our support line here is fantastic and i hope it continues always.

Take care sweetie.

Deb xx